I ask this question to myself every now and then. Reason being the presence of so many gadgets, toys and entertainment that was not there in my childhood. Technological advancements in the last decade has changed the way parenting is implemented in a middle class or upper middle class household in India.
Most of us have a smart phone, an ipad, a laptop and ofcourse a TV to compensate for the missing link 🙂 And then there are Malls! A trip to mall with the little one always ends with a little toy if not a big one. Even if that means a balloon! Its difficult to say No sternly when you yourself are shopping for thousands and you try refusing the child for a 50 bucks or a little more, though price is none of his concerns at 3!
And then I think, am I spoiling him in all this? Youtube videos, educative games on the tablet, Chotta Bheem/cartoons on TV and so many toys to sail through at home! Huh!
I do believe kids don’t need everything, at the same time they should be given apt exposure for their creative development which is in its peak form in the foundation years i.e. 1 to 5. All the international schools that have cropped up in last few years have changed the way we see education. Previously, educating a child meant making him learn numbers, rhymes, and alphabets to begin with. All the other learning was an eventuality.
Today we inertly try to compare our child’s creative growth with the best of schools in India, not just the city that we stay in. An internet savvy parent would do all the research on methodology, activities, and facilities that the school of a toddler offers. Its not possible for each and every child to get access to the new quality of education that focuses more on the overall development rather than the mugging up quality. Also, the fee of these international schools who are deploying interesting methods is still considered a notch up for the middle class, who would save it for future rather than investing it on primary education.
From a child’s perspective, what we shower on them in terms of toys should be well thought of, should come with a learning in a subtle manner. From my experience I have learnt that the kids need our time and attention the most. Rest of the things fall in place when we manage our time well with theirs.
Having too many toys or too little should not be a concern. What matters is the learning these toys have in the offering. Even a small car has lots to explore from the little mind’s angle. We should keep a good combination of toys/activities at home for an interactive episode. For example, keeping puzzles for some mind activity, toy vehicles for some thrill, soft toys for compassion, books with interesting graphics that keep the little one interested, balls and bats for some physical exercise, a couple of shapes related toys, building blocks and definitely a musical instrument to add quintessential music to your toddler’s life.
Expose the toys as per your understanding of his aptitude and attitude. Some kids are more interested in knowing how to break things, some in joining them, and some in simply understanding the in and out with much patience. It is our judgement that works the best regarding the stage at which we can introduce a few learning oriented activities. I usually don’t go by the age prescribed on puzzles. Mostly kids develop an acumen to solve puzzle at little over 2 years of age. Accordingly we can bring them the puzzles and see if they are showing interest. If they do, we must try and develop this attribute early on as it adds to problem solving abilities.
likewise, other categories of toys and activities should be introduced subtly to understand the interests level. its common for kids to steer away from an activity after a day or two of continuous engagements with the same. and then they come back to it may be a few months later. we should not be disheartened there, when he has so much to explore around him, its good that he has focused on something for more than a few minutes. We may not see the learning outcomes immediately, but its all there in the mind of your little explorer.
Hope this is helpful !
Coming up next is the You tube educative videos. Stay tuned!